Oct 25, 2009

Sunday Soakings - Day in Day out of friendship

It happens sometimes.  A friend has something really bad happen to her.  You don't know what to say. You know whatever you say will sound trite and condescending.  You don't want to say something stupid or something that will make her feel worse.

Sometimes a friend is rejoicing over weight loss (when your fat clothes are getting a little too small), or a husband's job promotion (when you are struggling to make ends meet) or a new car (when you're driving a nine year old car and will never afford a new one). 

What do you do?  What do you say?  Today's soaking is in a slightly different format, to give you a chance to reflect and come to your own conclusions.  I hope you enjoy.
"Anybody can sympathize with the sufferings of a friend, but it requires a very fine nature to sympathize with a friend's success." - Oscar Wilde

Rejoice with those who rejoice; mourn with those who mourn. Live in harmony with one another. Do not be proud, but be willing toassociate with people of low position. Do not be conceited.
Romans 12:15-16

  • Why does the scripture actually need to encourage us to rejoice with those who rejoice and mourn with those who mourn?
  • Do you find it easier to be there for a hurting friend or a celebrating friend? Why?
  • What is the appropriate behavior of a friend who is mourning with you?  Rejoicing with you?
  • Who are the “people of low position” in your life? Do you find it difficult to “associate” with them? Why?
  • Why are these verse especially important for women, specifically the part that says “live in harmony with one another”?

These verses seem to really be saying “It’s not about you”, in what situations do you struggle with a self-centered attitude? How can you strive to be other-focused and God-focused daily?



  1. SPEAKING FROM THE CRIBOctober 26, 2009 at 8:22 AM

    when my kids are making me crazy and i want to say STOP AND GO AWAY then i remember i'm doing it for them and they didn't ask to be here, so it's no longer about me :)

  2. I have a hard time listening to people at the low points. I am super sensitive and it stresses me out. Thanks for this reminder:)

  3. These are points we all need to ponder & pray about.I think a super loss in life can leave us not knowing how to respond effectively, I think a heartfelt I care about you & how you feel & just being there to listen is good. And Prayer with & for someone.I have noticed that when people are hurting they appreciate the on the spot prayer ,most of the time.

  4. Thanks for the important reminder. I needed to read this today. I often have a much easier time sympathizing with others when they are struggling than I do rejoicing with them in their success. Stinkin' human nature...


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