I've found a new theme to write on! I already had one just like it, called Something I Think About, and probably the Controversial Topics one I have done a few times would fall under this category but found this one over at Mom's the Glue and liked the name better.
So, without further ado... here is a button that I made... because every good theme has a button.
The thought for the day: What are a Mom's hours?
Once upon a time I had a discussion with my husband (read: fight) about what my job is as a SAHM. First let me say that D is supportive, a wonderful father, a relatively neat person and one of the hardest workers I've ever known.
In fact that is what the fight was about. He got fed up with me complaining at the end of the day about how the kids drove me crazy that day and how I needed to get out and be alone. He pointed out that he rarely complains about his job, that he just does what he needs to do and works hard at it. From his point of view I was complaining about the kids, not spending nearly the appropriate amount with them that I should be (so NOT true), spending far too much time on the computer and not keeping the house clean enough. It's my job. I need to do my job and not complain.
Before you get your feminist panties in a bunch, I don't disagree with this... at the moment I had some choice words for him, but upon further consideration I discovered that he was probably right... at least about it being my job, so I shouldn't complain. However, I came back with this monologue:
"Right, you work hard and you don't complain, and you come home at 5:30pm and you can leave it all at the office. If someone is annoying you, you don't have to look at them, talk to them, deal with them until you go back at 8am tomorrow morning. What about me? The kids bedtime is 8pm. I work HARD solidly from around 4:30pm, when I start making dinner until their bedtime, cooking, cleaning, bathing, reading, etc. etc. Once they go to bed, it is MY side of the bed they come to in the middle of the night when they have a bad dream or they vomited on their floor. I start work as soon as I get out of the shower in the morning, making sure they are dressed, brushed, fed, have all of their homework/field trip permission slips and lunches for the day. Even if they are at school, that's where I am too, or I work at my part time job. After school, I can't focus all of my brain on any one task because the kids need to be kept entertained or on task. On the weekends, you sleep in. I get up with them at some unGodly hour and make breakfast. You go out in the yard and garden, which you find relaxing, I am responsible to make sure they don't kill each other. When do I get home from work? When is my weekend? At what point can I let my guard down and "leave it at the office?"
So, moms, what say you? What are a mom's hours? Do you ever "get home from work"? What are ways that you relax at the end of the day? How to you protect yourself from bitter resentment?