Jan 1, 2013

The Year in Review... or something like that

As this year folds up on itself in preparation for long-term storage, I must create a top 10 list to wrap it up neatly. So here it is: the top 10 things I have learned this year...

1. Getting older is a good thing: I turned 35 this year, and though I am by-far not old yet, I am moving beyond (well beyond) my young adult-hood.   I love being 35.  I love the fact that people have finally stopped calling me a baby.  I love that my kids understand that I am older than them now.  I appreciate that my age alone seems to demand respect... and sometimes I do too!

2.  Getting older is a hard thing: I know more people who have been or are currently struggling through divorce, cancer and other debilitating illnesses.  It makes me more aware that most things in life are very temporary.  I also wake up with back pain more often than not... it's like I am getting older or something.

3.  No one else is going to make me feel good about myself.  Only God can do that, if I let HIM.   I am learning the long-involved process of self-acceptance.   If God made me fabulous, than it must be true!! (Just repeat that to myself 10 times a day).

4. Not everyone has to like me.  That should be okay.  Everyone is in a different part of their journey, and the reality is that I don't always like me, so I guess I shouldn't expect every single other person on the planet to like me... it's just not the way the world works.

5. Being a peacemaker doesn't mean that everything is instantly perfectly peaceful, but it really changes my perspective in less than peaceful circumstances.

6. Forgiveness is a process and isn't "done" over night.  You have to keep working at it.

7. Becoming beautiful inside and out is also a process, which is a little bit painful... but so worth it!

8. Just when you think you've got it all figured out as a parent (because that happens all the time... right?), your kid enters a new phase and you feel like banging your head on the wall.  Luckily, you have more time... for NOW.

9. Life is hard, but God is present.  This year has been a year for struggles for those around me (and on the National scale)... God has been teaching me to look for Him in the midst of the dark places. 

10. The only person who limits me is me.   I mean it.  The only person who has the power to limit me, IS ME.  I need to knock it off. 

Happy New Year Bloggy land!  I was on vacation with my family and I just got a new computer and it has taken me a while to get it up and running... which is why I have been so quiet.  Looking forward to a great year writing!

What about YOU?  What has been a valuable or hard lesson you've learned this year?



13 comments:

  1. what great lessons. so true. hope you have a great 2013!!

    ReplyDelete
  2. #4 was a very hard one for me to learn!

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. Isn't it though!? Awful! (Especially for a people-pleaser like myself.

      Delete
  3. Your point about setting limits is a good reminder, especially regarding myself and my job. I tend to think I can't do this and that, but in reality it may be a brilliant opportunity for something better, just that I'm too scared of failing.

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. You can do it! I think most of us can do anything we put our minds to. Good luck!

      Delete
  4. Love your list. It sounds a lot like mine, though my list would be things I need to learn this year. A lot of us should probably

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. Thank you! :) I'm still learning!

      Delete
  5. What a great list AJ. There are so many things on it I can SO relate to! I am 45 so I am a decade ahead of you... some of those things start to literally melt away or they push you into a richer perspective of life, as the focus takes on new meaning and purpose. The back pains and grey hairs and wrinkles however, get much much worse!!! lol

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. Thank you! I take that as a compliment! I have so many grey hairs I don't know what to do with them anymore... :) Glad to know that I'm not done learning!

      Delete
  6. I love number seven, it reminds me of the velveteen rabbit!

    ReplyDelete
  7. Funny how getting older can be both and bad at the same time, isn't it! :) I love that I've grown out of some behaviors and attitudes from my younger days, but man, those little (and sometimes big!) changes to my body can really stink!! I hate that I get up from the floor with my kids and sound like a rusty robot - all creaky and cracking everywhere! Haha! And I am working on being ok with not everyone liking me. I know that I don't need that and have to just let it go sometimes when people don't.

    ReplyDelete

Thank you for taking the time to leave a comment!
As with most blogs, we appreciate most comments, but please don't post anything mean or insulting (to the author or anyone else), thank you!!