Mar 28, 2013

13 things a girl should know before she grows up

I don't have a teenager yet. However,  I've been working with teens for more than 17 years, both in the church and in the urban mission field {with teen parents} and I was once a teenage girl too.  The following is what I see are the most important lessons any girl should learn before they graduate from High School and {perhaps} go away to college. 

So here it is:


1.  You are acceptable. 
  Even if you don't seem to be turning out the way your parents hoped, even if you have made some significantly bad choices, even then, the truth is that God made you acceptable.  God accepts you just like you are. He wants you to strive for better, He wants to see you holy, but not because it reflects on Him, but because HE reflects on you.

2.  You are a Child of God.
  Did you know that the Creator of the Universe, the same God who set the planets into motion, the big guy who told the ocean how far it could go, and created the light, THAT GOD created you and wants to have a relationship with you.  Is His eyes you are beautiful, and wonderful and wanted.  You are His.

3. Don't let anyone else tell you who you are.
  Sometimes the voices in our heads telling us that we aren't good enough, the harsh words from parents and teachers, the judgment from well meaning friends and family, these labels are powerful things.  Every girl needs to know that once she knows and understands WHO SHE IS, then she can reject those voices who are telling her lies.  As soon as you know the truth about your identity, you are able to recognize those voices that are lying to you.

4. Life is hard.
  It sounds trite, but it is really true.  The sooner you realize that life is not always going to be bubblegum and lollipops, the better prepared you will be to face those challenges; but remember...

5.  You are NEVER alone.
  No matter how hard life gets, the power to stand up again is only a prayer away.  In the darkest moments of life, those moments where you don't feel like you can keep trying, just pray... and it will get better. The Bible reminds us: Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid or terrified because of them, for the LORD your God goes with you; he will never leave you nor forsake you." Deuteronomy 31:6

6.  Guard your heart.
  If you are interested in staying pure for your future husband, do your best to avoid unnecessary intimacy with boys.  Save your heart for your future husband.

7.  Even "small" choices can change the direction of your life.
  Sometimes it seems like a small choice, even if it's bad or a compromise, is no big deal.  The reality is that every choice you make takes you down roads, some of which you shouldn't go.  "Just for a second" or "Just this once" is one step too far.

8. There is no choice that is not redeemable.
  Imagine the worst choice you could make, now imagine God fixing it.  God can always work with our "screw-ups", as long as we are willing to learn from our mistakes and turn around.

9.  You are valuable.
  Every girl needs to know that she is someone's Princess.   We are ALL valuable to God, we all have spiritual gifts that He uses to bless others.  We all have something to add to this world that is uniquely ours.

10.  You are beautiful.  
   Don't waste time trying to make yourself more attractive on the outside if you can't recognize the beauty that is in you.  God made you beautiful.    You are beautiful.  Spend time recognizing the creative genius that went into making you; your laugh, your smile, your heart, rejoice in your inner beauty. 

11. Fools Rush In.
   Don't marry the first person you fall in love with unless everyone else thinks it's a good match.   Listen to your parents, your best friend and those closest to you.  If people wave red flags... stop and reconsider.  Take your time to understand who HE is before you marry him.  Take your time to understand who YOU are before you get married. Spend significant time considering who you want to spend the rest of your life with. 

12. Understand how much power you have.
   Remember, you can't control or change anyone else.  You can only control you.  You can't change another person's heart or mind, only God can do that {or they can choose to}.  Live your life with the understanding that people are people and you should line your expectations up accordingly.

13. God has you.
   As women, we are full of empty places.  We are full of desires for being protected and loved. We long to be fully embraced intimately by a man who cherishes and adores us.  Regardless if you find that early or late {or never at all}, lean into God.  He is there to be leaned into.  GOD will fill those empty places.  You just have to let Him.

1 comment:

  1. I was searching for a passage of scripture add I was encouraging a young lady and came across your blog. Your writings are heartfelt, compassionate, and filled with His love. Keep shining in this dark world!

    God bless you & your family.

    JA

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