Many websites and blogs have lists very similar to this one, with slight variations in ages for skills and chores. The following is a comprehensive list that includes a consensus of what most of those sites are saying are reasonable ages to expect your children to do these things.
Many times we see lists like this and think... "Good idea!" Then you go to your 7-year-old child and say "You should be able to make your own lunch". The mistake is to leave them to do it without any training.
From skills as simple and seemingly intuitive as cleaning their room and getting dressed to more complex skills like riding a bike or sewing, children need a calm, patient, loving parent to train them step -by- step.
New skills can be taught to children in the following way:
1. You do, the child watches.
2. You do, the child helps.
3. Your child does, you help.
4. Your child does, you watch.
Teaching a new skill this way takes time, but it decreases the chance your child will fail at the task and increases the feeling of confidence and security they need to do something new.
The only other caveat to this list: just because your child is old enough to do something and CAN do something doesn't negate their need for you to do it for them sometimes too. Parenting is a balancing act between doing too much and doing too little. We want our children to feel loved, cared for and nurtured, as well as to have the abilities and confidence to take care of themselves.
There is a thin line between encouraging self-reliance and being inattentive your child. You as the parent will have to figure out that line for you and your child.
Put toys away with some supervision.
Get dressed (with some help from you).
Put clothes in the hamper
Clear their plate after a meal
Assist in setting the table.
Brush their teeth and wash their face with assistance.
Should know their full name, address, and phone number.
How to make an emergency call.
Perform simple cleaning chores such as dusting in easy-to-reach places, hanging towels up in the bathroom and clearing the table after meals.
Feed and care for pets.
Identify monetary denominations, and understand the very basic concept of how money is used.
Brush teeth, comb hair, and wash face without assistance.
Help with basic laundry chores, such as putting clothes away, and bringing dirty clothes to the laundry area.
Choose their own clothes to wear.
Mix, stir, and cut with a dull knife.
Make a sandwich, and a “cold lunch”
Understand what a “healthy” snack is versus a sugary snack
Help put the groceries away.
Wash the dishes, empty the dishwasher
Use basic household cleaners safely.
Straighten up the bathroom after using it.
Make bed without assistance.
Learn simple sewing.
Strip their bed
Care for outdoor toys such as a bike or roller skates.
Take care of personal hygiene without being told to do so.
Use a broom and dustpan properly.
Read a recipe and prepare a simple meal.
Use the stove to cook (with supervision)
Use the oven to bake foods (with supervision)
Help create a grocery list.
Count and make change.
Take written phone messages.
Help with simple lawn duties such as watering and weeding flower beds.
Take out the trash.
Stay home alone. (Use your judgment, you know your child)
Change bed sheets.
Use the washing machine and dryer.
Plan and prepare a meal with several ingredients.
Use the stove to cook
Use the oven to broil and bake foods
Learn to use basic hand tools.
Learn how to create a simple budget and implement it
Mow the lawn.
Go to the store and make purchases independently.
Look after younger siblings or neighbors.
Use an iron
Wash the family car with supervision.
Change light bulbs
Change the vacuum bag
Dust, vacuum, clean bathrooms and do dishes
Perform more sophisticated cleaning and maintenance chores, like cleaning the oven/ stove and unclogging drains.
Fill a car with gas, add air to and change a tire.
Read and understand medicine labels and dosages.
Interview for and get a job.
Prepare and cook meals if needed.
Be able to use a grill.