May 13, 2013

10 creative ways to say "I Love You" to your husband

It may have been Mother's Day yesterday, which is a good day to celebrate our mothers, but here is a little known fact... most of us could NOT have become mothers without a man.  For most of us, that would be our husband.  Yesterday was about you mom, but it's good to remember that there are no moms without the lovers in our lives. 

The last couple of weeks I have been working hard on showing my husband love.  I am struggling to find ways to say it without just "saying it".  I have been having fun using my google power to find some good ideas and now I have put together a small list of more creative ways to say I love you.

1. Send him a secret note:  Remember notes "from a secret admirer"?  Well, it's not easy to do now that you aren't in Jr. High, you have no locker, and your husband undoubtedly knows your handwriting.  You can still give him a little bit of that with an "Anonymous Email" love note.  You can send an email that won't have your name as the "from" line and then he can open a love note from you that will take him a little bit by surprise. At least he won't know it's from you until he opens it. {Just make sure you keep the subject line clean, otherwise he will never get it, because it will end up in his SPAM folder.}

2.  Surprise him around every turn:  Write him a series of short notes on cute note-paper and hide them in various places you know he will find it.  This is not a new idea, but my hubby seems to like it.  Under his pillow, in the medicine cabinet, hanging from a pants hanger in the closet and on his computer keyboard.  If you could somehow sneak one to him at work (other than in his lunch), that would be fun too!

3. Give him the gift of a massage: Some husbands will never ask for a head or shoulder rub, but most men carry the weight of the world on their shoulders.  Give him a simple head and shoulder rub to let him know that you love and appreciate him. Want to learn more about how to give an amazing massage?  Read this article with some great Massage Tips.

4. One of the fastest ways to a man's heart is through his stomach:  Get him his favorite snack food or candy bar and put it in his briefcase, lunch bag or passenger seat of his car with a note from you.  You can also just surprise him with his favorite ice cream or breakfast food (doughnuts with Starbucks coffee) when he is at work or in the shower.

5.  Meet him in the Bedroom: Go to bed just before him, put on some lingerie, light some candles, and surprise him with a night he won't soon forget.  Most men would love for their wife to initiate a passionate night of love-making. {Just make sure you keep yourself primed throughout the day, start thinking passionate thoughts about him in the shower in the morning, give him a lingering kiss over his morning coffee and greet him enthusiastically when he gets home from work}.  Feel like this is something you struggle with?  Check out Intimacy in Marriage blog, and this post "5 reasons I like sex" for a Christian perspective.

6. Let you count the ways:  Take a roll of receipt tape and write a long message with the things you admire and respect about your husband – then roll it up and tie it up for your husband to open and read.

7.  Text him something sweet: Send him texts throughout the day telling him your favorite moments with him.  I sent "The first time you kissed me" and a few others.  Keep in mind that if he is working, make sure they are safe for him to read when surrounded by other people.  I found this great blog post by a Christian blogger about Sexting.

8.  Dinner time appreciation: Have your kids each share something they love about your hubby and then finish off the list with your own.

9. Steamy messages: Get some bathtub crayons and write him a love poem on the shower wall... make it as steamy as you want (as long as your kids don't share your bathroom).  Want to actually write a love poem?  Read this Huffington Post article about "How to Write Love Poems that don't Suck".

10. Demonstrate that you are trying to correct that annoying habit: Make an obvious effort to stop doing it. That could include picking up your dirty socks to cleaning the dishes as you use them to tossing your gum in the trash when you have the urge to smack it. Do not say, "See, I’m working on that." Your actions will speak for themselves. 

There you go, some fun ways to spice up your marriage.  Showing your hubby that you love him might be something that you do everyday or it might be something that you never think of doing, but I know that regardless of how long you've been married {it will be 14 years this summer for us}, it's never too late to start or too long to continue to spice up your marriage.  

I will admit, I haven't done 6, 8, or 9 yet, but can't wait to try!

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  1. These are great ideas! Don't forget to hold hands when you are walking together. It's so much fun...I guess that could be your number 11.

  2. These ideas are great. I'm about to go try a few of them right now! Thanks for the inspiration.

  3. As a spouse it could get very frustrating giving this kind of love and affection to a partner that does not respond the way I want them to. I have to remember that regardless of the response I am doing this as to the Lord. If I forget that and hold on to the memory eventually I will become bitter. Giving freely with no expectations can be so hard. Giving that hurt to God quickly helps take care of the hurt. Thank you for the great suggestions. I am going to try some (with no expectations!)

  4. Hi I'm Heather! Please email me when you get a chance, I have a question about your blog! LifesABanquet1(at)

  5. I posted a comment a couple minutes ago but don't think it worked because I wasn't logged in (feel free to delete this one if you get two). I love that secret admirer note idea, AJ. My hubby would love that (I'm pretty sure it would make him blush :)). Thanks for the creative ideas.

  6. So much to love here! I've done several, and look forward to implementing several of your suggestions. I've written notes before, but the twist of putting it on receipt tape is really cute. I am right in the midst of #10, and I know already how much he appreciates my efforts.
    Found you via HWC.


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